I cruise with friends a few times a few times a year. Here's how to avoid problems that could ruin your relationships
In:I think going on a Royal Caribbean cruise is better with friends, so I'll invite as many as I can to sail each time we have something booked.

Although I know these people well in my everyday life, group travel is a different dynamic and I've learned there need to be certain expectations ahead of time.
We're all on vacation together, but there are challenges to navigate when you're sailing with people you know. You definitely don't want to let something silly not only ruin the cruise, but put your entire friendship in jeopardy.
Over the years, I've added techniques based on life lessons that make a cruise with friends so much better and less likely to break up our relationships.
I make it clear we aren't spending every minute together

The great thing about a cruise vacation is how much there is to see and do, and I think it's easier to do your own thing than if I traveled to a city or theme park with friends.
When I extend an invitation to book the same cruise as us, I try to convey that we want to sail together but understand that they will want alone time and we do too.

I remember the "Full House" episode when the Tanners went to Disney World and Danny overplanned the entire trip in a vain effort to stimulate bonding. All it did was annoy everyone, and that has stuck with me.
I'll tell my friends there will be times where we want to chill, or do an excursion with just us. And I'm okay if they want to do the same thing.
I love traveling with friends because there are times when we can socialize together by the pool, on the beach, or at dinner. But it doesn't have to be a 24/7 activity.
Not every friend is right for a cruise together

Real talk: some friends are wonderful people to hang out with for a beer at home, but traveling together might not be a great idea.
I've learned there are different family dynamics, special needs, and personalities that might work well for dinner out but not necessarily on the same ship for a week.
The issue isn't everyone needs to be a clone of my personality, rather, I don't want frustrations to boil over.
Some of my friends compliment my travel's family style better than others, so it's okay to be picky with which friends I'll invite. Being friends only at home isn't a bad thing either.
Book the cruise with the same travel agent

A lesson of making your cruise easier is to use the same travel agency for the booking.
Not only could you potentially get group benefits from Royal Caribbean if you book enough cabins, but being booked under the same travel agent really makes coordinating onboard plans a lot simpler.
I don't want to be nagging my friends to make final payment or try to answer billing questions. I'll let the travel agent do that, so we can focus on the fun things together.
Plus, a travel agent can easily link everyone's reservations together so that dining together is simple.
I make planning a group conversation

There are two elements to a cruise where I think you really want a group effort: dining and excursions.
I rarely plan out anything onboard the ship during the day, but I'll definitely want to get a consensus about where and when we plan to eat because dinner on cruises is the most pivotal time.
Are we going to eat in the Main Dining Room? Buy a dining package? Windjammer it up?

The reason dinner is so important is it's clearly the meal every day where most passengers are doing the same thing, and it's a good opportunity to talk about our day, make evening plans, and essentially come together.
The other group think activity is to plan out our tours on shore.
Finding an awesome shore excursion to share in together is probably the best thing about cruising with friends. Hanging at a beautiful beach, exploring a city, or trying something together really adds to the memories.

It's fairly informal, but we usually text each other excursion ideas and then agree on one. Going back to my second tip in this article, I've found the people that I like to invite to a cruise have the same ideas of what a fun excursion are going to be, and that helps ensure we're on the same page.
Usually it's easy enough to toss them a link to book a dinner or excursion, so there's no mess of money to be discussed. But if we're going to share a cabana or private tour and I'm going to book it, then I'll be very clear on how much they owe before we agree to book it.
I've learned you should never assume how much the other people think they'll owe.
Establish a way to text onboard

It's so much easier to stay in contact with friends on Royal Caribbean ships now, thanks to better internet and even a free chat feature in the app. You can even make a group chat with the app.
Before getting onboard, have a plan how you'll communicate with each other. Text, WhatsApp, or the Royal Caribbean app all work, but get that sorted out before the ship departs.
The key is to ensure you all agree on something before you get onboard so no one is left in the dark.
Sharing a cabin? Split your bill (and bed)

If you've invited a friend to share a cabin with you, be sure to get them on a different billing option than you.
Nothing ruins a friendship faster than money, so go to Guest Services after you board the ship and have them add their credit card to their account. That way, there's no confusion who owes what or why someone bought something.
While on the topic of money, you should agree on how you're splitting the onboard credit for the cabin. It's quite common to get OBC, so agree who gets it or how you'll split it. Never assume!
Speaking of splitting, you can split your bed by asking your stateroom to do it.
You can specify this on your cruise reservation ahead of time, but if it doesn't get done, just ask your cabin attendant.
Ask, don't expect

Another lesson from cruising with friends is it's safer to ask them about a plan or idea rather than waiting for them to come to you.
It can be dicey trying to balance your friendship in a way that doesn't seem like you're too needy or distant.
I feel I'm a point in my life where we don't need to act like it's high school and there are social rules for when and when not to do something, especially when it comes to inviting yourself.

Ultimately, I'll opt to shoot a quick message over to ask if our friends want to join us or if we can join them for something. But there's the understanding the answer can be "no" and it won't hurt our feelings.
Examples include:
- Getting chairs at the pool deck
- Going to a show
- Sitting at the bar for drinks
These are situations where the words, "Mind if I join you" are said.
Too many times I've deferred not to be a bother only to realize later they would have loved to have us join them, but didn't want to bug us.