I took my 64-year-old mom on a cruise. I learned 5 important lessons
In:I grew up cruising with my parents, and I still love to travel with them today. Even as an adult, I make it a priority to share meaningful experiences with them doing something we all enjoy. For our family, cruising continues to be the perfect way for all of us to travel together, especially as my parents get older.

A few weeks ago, my mom and I flew to Los Angeles to board Royal Caribbean’s Ovation of the Seas for one of the ship’s first cruises out of California. We spent two days at sea and two days exploring Cabo San Lucas in Mexico. Our itinerary even featured an overnight port stay in Cabo San Lucas, which we were very excited about!
My mom would consider herself “not old” at only 64 years old, but I still adjust how I travel when we cruise together. She is healthy and fairly active for her age, so I don’t need to worry about mobility concerns.

Surprisingly, this was the first time just the two of us had cruised together. We typically cruise as a family, but my sister was unavailable to join because she just started a new job. Regardless, we had a wonderful cruise together! But after our 5-night cruise to Baja, Mexico, I learned some important lessons about cruising with your parents.
1. Splurge on high-quality luggage

Last fall, my sister and I cruised with our parents across Australia and Bali. I couldn’t believe the rickety and janky suitcases that my parents packed! They could barely roll their luggage through the airport or cruise terminal without the suitcase flopping over! When they brought the same worn-down suitcases again this spring on our family cruise across Asia, I said, “I never want to see that janky luggage again!”
So, my sister and I decided to buy our mom a brand-new set of Away Luggage for Mother’s Day. It was pricey, but we split the cost and used a credit card offer to save a couple hundred dollars.
My mom brought her new carry-on for the first time on our Ovation of the Seas cruise, and she was amazed at how much easier it made traveling. She had no trouble getting through the airport and cruise terminal on her own. Investing in quality luggage made it much simpler for her to manage her bags, and the upgrade was well worth the price for a smoother travel experience.
2. Be proactive and ask for help

During our vacation, there were a few instances where I realized how important it was for me to be proactive and ask for help when my mom needed it.
First, we had a less-than-positive taxi experience leaving the airport, which made her uneasy. The next morning, we met a really lovely driver who took us to the cruise port. During the ride, we asked if we could prearrange our return trip from the port to the airport after the cruise was done.
This gave my mom peace of mind that we already had transportation lined up with a reliable, safe, and friendly driver. He even gave us his phone number to text with updates or questions, which was handy when we had questions about navigating the city during recent events.

Additionally, I encouraged my mom to ask for help at the airport when she needed. Although she is able-bodied, she was worried about lifting her suitcase into the overhead bin on her own.
Because we were flying separately, I suggested she ask the flight attendant or someone on the flight to help with her suitcase. It’s better to ask for help than have her potentially hurt herself. Luckily, she didn’t have any issue finding someone to help on her flights, which was a relief for me.
3. Book a shore excursion for everyone to relax

Although I might have explored Cabo San Lucas on my own, I know my mom wouldn’t have been comfortable with this. Because we had never visited before, we both agreed that booking a shore excursion with Royal Caribbean was the best option.
We only spent about $70 each for a full-day tour, and it was totally worth it. To start, Cabo San Lucas is a tender port. This means you either have priority tendering with an excursion, or you have to obtain a tender ticket to disembark independently. Having an excursion gave my mom a sense of relief knowing we didn’t have to worry about the tender ticket situation.

Additionally, neither of us had to stress about logistics for planning the day. Everything was taken care of, so we could just enjoy the excursion while experiencing Cabo for the first time. I’d absolutely book another excursion with my mom again, and I think it’s one of the best options when traveling with multiple generations.
You'll just want to make sure you check your excursion’s guidelines and requirements. Some tours are not wheelchair-friendly and require more strenuous activity. Although this wasn’t a problem for my mom, we did see other older travelers struggling to board the tender. Some almost fell into the speedboat while boarding to visit the famous Cabo Arch formation! Ensure you book an excursion that everyone can comfortably and safely enjoy.
4. Prepare to become the chief IT officer

While cruising with my mom, I think I earned the distinguished honor of being her personal IT officer. As her daughter, I’m happy to help her with any phone, internet, or technology issues.
For those who aren’t as tech-savvy, the use of technology can be overwhelming, and even frustrating, while traveling. This is especially true on cruises where cruise lines are increasingly relying on digital tools like virtual muster drills and mobile apps to manage the onboard experience.
For example, while I breezed through setting up my Internet access, my mom struggled to figure out the correct steps. I ended up taking the lead and signing her up for the Internet package because she was having a hard time getting this purchased.

At one point, she also managed to lock herself out of the safe in our cabin. We had to request assistance for the safe to stop its non-stop beeping and reset the passcode. We couldn't help but laugh at the classic "senior moment"!
Finally, at the end of the cruise, I helped her check in for her flight and save the boarding passes to her Apple Wallet. I wanted to make sure she had everything she needed before heading to the airport, as we were on separate return flights. Additionally, I coordinated with the gate agent to get her on standby for an earlier flight. This worked out for her, as she landed hours ahead of her originally scheduled midnight arrival.
5. Taking charge to ease stress

My mom is very well traveled, but she usually has my dad as their planner to take care of everything. We always joke that “Mom is just along for the ride and happy to be cruising!”
I found myself taking charge throughout the cruise to alleviate some of my mom’s stress. When she landed a few hours before me at LAX, we planned for her to relax in the airport lounge while waiting for me. I didn’t want her to figure out the hotel taxi or ride-share without me. I knew the massive size of LAX would be stressful for her.
Finally, I was happy to order the Uber rides and handle our logistics. I checked us both in for the cruise and downloaded both boarding passes before heading to the terminal. To make sure my mom is relaxed and at ease, taking charge is something I will naturally do.