Wow! I really appreciate everyone's advice (and support) so far ? Keep it coming!!
We've been on several cruises, however, this is the first one when the kids are going to want more freedom so I'm just a bit nervous about that. They are old enough to be safe but they haven't had "freedom" at home long enough to be seasoned at keeping track of time while in the midst of an intense battle on the court or the like ?
Also, I've been a middle school teacher for over 20 years so I have a pretty good sense for all the many ways everyone chooses to rear kids. Positives and negatives to them all!
monctonguy - I get what you're saying and it would be brilliant if it was that simple these days! But I want to have a happy trip, not one filled with my kids being pissed off and resenting me. Fancy clothes aren't a battle I'm willing to fight right now. I'll save that for late nights, being kind, drugs, drinking, school work etc...
My daughter is really the tough one. My son plays golf so he has plenty of polos and pants/shorts to wear. My daughter, on the other hand, is a pure athlete. She wears athletic gear as much as possible. Her idea of dressing up is a pair of jean shorts and a t-shirt without a logo ? Even tried an athletic skirt or t-shirt dress. We try on dresses and skirts and she thinks they don't "suit her" or fit her personality. When your kid tells you that, it's kinda hard to say tough sh*t - Do it anyway! lol.